Having a 'workplace-intervention' conversation with a friend/colleague

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One of our co-workers is extremely good at what he does, but a total nightmare at social skills and judging when he's being way too overbearing. He likes to totally hi-jack conversations and small meetings and act like he knows best...

While his ideas are good, he is terrible at suggesting/presenting them and incorporating himself into a healthy discussion at a 'team-member'. While we aren't really good friends, him and I have great conversations outside of the context of work while we're having coffee or lunch or whatever and we have a good time talking about random nerdy shit and he can be really funny.

Our coworkers approached me about having one of those 'come to Jesus' talks with him myself, even though that's def. not my schtick and I've never been good at bringing the hammer down...but I had to have a brief talk with him about it yesterday.

At the beginning he thought I was joking but I had to tell him I was serious and I didn't say anyone else had been saying anything, but I told him what was up and he was getting defensive and I could tell he was hurt about it, because he really loves his job and cares about it. After we talked, I tried to smooth it out with some 'but relax everything is good's and some nice text messages telling him to enjoy his weekend and chill out and everything, but I could tell it hurt him. :.......( Such a good fella...

Anyone else have to be the one to bring the hammer down on someone at work? Did u hate it?

:....(

cliffs:
- I was unofficially nominated to have a 'come to Jesus' talk with a coworker/friend about his dynamics with colleagues.
- He thought I was joking but I was serious and he got hurt by it.
- I felt really bad and tried to smooth it out after.
- I still feel real bad but I guess its necessary.
- :........(
-U ever had to?

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love it or lose it

i used to work with this spergy guy who was the best programmer i've ever seen and insanely knowledgeable, problem was he could not stop talking and would literally stand at your desk for two hours straight telling you things you already know and that he already knows you know

he would also drag every meeting out for an extra hour because as soon as he got the floor he would not let go

people tried to point this out to him gently but he honestly couldn't help it, thank god i left that team because it was driving me insane
 
You sound like a real asshole for putting someone down about shit like that, and a real pussy for feeling bad about it.

This is what bosses are supposed to be for, so co workers don't have to upset each other.
 
I know exactly what Rusty is talking about. Someone who thinks they know everything, yet they're broke because they (and their wife) can't stop spending money. Credit cards maxed out. When you tell these people about a budget and saving money, it goes in one ear and out the other. These people only last a year at a job, unless they are in an office by them self (no interaction with other people. I've known this person since high school, but our lives are completely different. These people will drag you down with their doom and gloom. I don't talk to him as much.
 
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i learned a few years back that no amount of baller code is going to make uyp for the fact ur impossible to work with. I can do just fine fixing slop or code slung shit if you are going to stop trying to educate me on shit you dont understand.
 
Sounds like you did a shit job of talking to him. Also, unless you're his supervisor, I wouldn't have had this "talk" with him at all. It's not your place.

Whatever, the damage is done. Let us know if he quits over this so we can all have a good laugh at your expense.
 
If this back room bullshit happened at any business I've owned I'd be firing people until folks learned their place in the workplace. If you don't like who you work with quit and find another job.
 
I stopped in the middle of an interstate and threatened to smack a co worker. A month later I had his job. Lol


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The guy is probably the only worker who keeps your place going. He's tried to rally you guys, but you're all threatened by him. You all tried to lower him to your standards; now he'll quit and the whole biz will fall apart. Hope you can find another job.
 
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The guy is probably the only worker who keeps your place going. He's tried to rally you guys, but you're all threatened by him. You all tried to lower him to your standards; now he'll quit and the whole biz will fall apart. Hope you can find another job.
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this post is hilarious because of how off-target you are, if only you knew, but that makes it my own little joke kekekeke
 
SeVeReD said:
The guy is probably the only worker who keeps your place going. He's tried to rally you guys, but you're all threatened by him. You all tried to lower him to your standards; now he'll quit and the whole biz will fall apart. Hope you can find another job.
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best possible outcome
 
rusty, i've got a personal problem w/ billy. you need to talk to him about it b/c we're all equals here which means u do as i say
 
This is what "managers" used to bring to the game. That is mostly gone from most places now and it has turned into a clusterfuck of hurt feelings and lame productivity. Good luck :lol: Fucking scrum masters hahahaha
 
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