Idk if that's an accurate description, but if they just left the kid alone in a room with nothing but a big red button. that sounds like a flawed experiment. You can leave an adult alone in a room with nothing but a button that he knows will give them a painful electric shock if he pushes it, and he will still do it just to avoid boredom. Did the kid in this experiment have anything else to do apart from pressing the button?
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You're a clueless fucking idiot. Either you have no idea what the word rational means or you have no idea what you're talking about. It's scary that you have kid. 18-month old absolutely knows how to get what they want. And what they don't want is pain, discomfort, or being alone in a room as punishment.
Then again, I'm talking to a retard that thinks it's wise to let the kids hit each other instead of being a parent and beating both of their asses. Great parenting.
I’m guessing you don’t have kids. There is no cookie cutter approach, my kids are different than yours, which are different than coombz. In fact my kids are very different than each other, so discipline was different for each. The only thing I can think of that is universally important is being involved in their lives. I did not have to use a heavy hand on my kids at all and they turned out to be very productive and well balanced awesome human beings. Some kids do require a heavier hand, me and my brothers for instance, and we all turned out pretty good. What my parents had in common with us is that they were very involved in our lives. Told us they were proud of us and less often that they were disappointed in us etc.
I'm with Amadeus on this one. You are the adult in charge. You are the one there to give rewards and consequences. Your son should learn to say 'stop that. don't do that. I don't like that. if you don't stop I'm going to tell Mom or Dad' in a loud firm voice; not whining. 18 months to 2 and 1/2 I think it's the perfect time to give a quick little SWAT as a consequence. Watch the playing carefully and when it happens Time-It as she's reaching her hand back to scratch.
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I honestly, do not remember. When observing the kids left in the room, they wanted to observe the behavior of the child after being warned. Distractions could give the child an excuse to look away and negate what the study is looking for. We don't always have a distraction when we are presented with making a choice.
The reason for the study was to discover why so many adults continue to do the wrong thing even though the adults know nothing good will come of this action. Is this a learned behavior or is this something we are born with?
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lol at validuz screeching about parenting like he has any experience
so daft
so daft
Then again, I'm talking to a retard that thinks it's wise to let the kids hit each other instead of being a parent and beating both of their asses. Great parenting.
You don't have kids do you. An 18 month old is like having a 2' terrorist that can't speak but wants to cuddle in the house. Their 'rationality' goes to complete shit if they have the wrong sock on
Yes, every kid is different. What a revelation!
What part of anything I said was being contradicted by anything you just said? Did I say all kids are the same?
I have two boys, 7 and 12.
They've had arguments, and the little one has been more prone to hitting the older one, but they've never had a fight, and the older one has never crushed the younger, even though he could very easily and the younger one sometimes really deserves it.
I've taught them to love each other. I've instilled in them from the very beginning that it's completely dishonorable to fight your own brother, and that brothers should always work together, should look out for each other, and should always be counted on to fight everyone else, not each other.
Seems to have worked so far.
About the closest I've come to sanctioning violence between them is telling the younger one, "Ya know... one of these days your brother is gonna hit you back, and I promise you, you're not gonna like it one bit."
They've had arguments, and the little one has been more prone to hitting the older one, but they've never had a fight, and the older one has never crushed the younger, even though he could very easily and the younger one sometimes really deserves it.
I've taught them to love each other. I've instilled in them from the very beginning that it's completely dishonorable to fight your own brother, and that brothers should always work together, should look out for each other, and should always be counted on to fight everyone else, not each other.
Seems to have worked so far.
About the closest I've come to sanctioning violence between them is telling the younger one, "Ya know... one of these days your brother is gonna hit you back, and I promise you, you're not gonna like it one bit."
This.
I honestly don't expect my nephews/niece to not hit anyone ever just because I told them to. But I want them to realize that hitting is bad, so that when they want to hit someone, they will weigh what they're gonna get out of it against knowing that they're about to do something bad.
It's all about getting them to think about the consequences of their actions.
That's what every shit parent says when their little monster grows up and hurts someone or does something evil: "we loved him so much"on the one hand, i agree, we're all animals at the end of the day
on the other hand, in real life you can't entirely eliminate bad behaviour with the threat of punishment - humans are impulsive, rebellious and have their own minds and spirits
kids just take time to grow up and stop being dumb
Your kids don't just stop being dumb or shitty on their own, idiot. They have to be guided, sometimes forcefully with repetitive punishment.
You teach them self-defense from others. They shouldn't need that from a sibling at 1-3. The problem here is not the boy, but the girl. The girl should be punished. Idiot liberals are always looking at the symptoms, trying to address them instead of the root problems.when children are like 2-3ish and in the phase of being all possessive with toys and stuff, and occasionally violent with other little kids, we teach them over and over that you're supposed to use words and not just batter peopleright?
we taught that to our son, but then I had to tell him that it's also OK to defend himself if his little sister is being violent
this will teach him not to cry for help all the time like a beta bitch, and will help daughter learn that there can be consequences to actions
'being a parent and beating both of their asses' definitely has its place, but practically speaking you can't do that every single time they squabble - they have to learn to deal with shit themselves, THAT is parenting
there aren't any problems to be addressed you screeching retard and neither of my kids are 1-3
I agree that the violent child should be punished, but do you think the victim should just stand there and take it until an adult can save them, or run off for help all the time?
every parent has different values they want to instill i guess...one of mine will always be that you don't let anyone walk all over you without a fight
and neither of my kids are 1-3I agree that the violent child should be punished, but do you think the victim should just stand there and take it until an adult can save them, or run off for help all the time?
every parent has different values they want to instill i guess...one of mine will always be that you don't let anyone walk all over you without a fight