TW, last time I had a similar dilemma I went against your advice, realized it was a mistake, and then corrected the situation. I can't promise I'll listen this time either, but hey, maybe.
SO
I'm dating this chick. She's pretty cool and my friends like her for the most part. She's a couple years older than I am, and she's in to the same stuff I am (skiing, bikes, generic mountain stuff), though not to the same level (she's slow). I'm pretty sure she'll love me to death forever, as she's the most severe clinger I've ever encountered. Things are pretty serious and the plan is for her to move in with me in a month and a half.
Now, concerns. She has some health issues (nothing major, though it seems only one girl I've ever really been involved with has been totally free of any medical issues - seriously, wtf is wrong with chicks?). She has lots of debt, mostly student loans but several grand in assorted medical and credit card debt. And she has a tendency to be pretty down on things and almost always sees the negative side. There are some other annoyances that are fairly minor and not fairly relevant, as I'm pretty sure everyone has them.
I'm 27, 28 in a few months, attractive, Got The Graduate Degree (TM), good job, etc. I thought I was pretty solid on the idea of her moving in, which would almost certainly lead to us getting married (and in fact she's already hassling me about it, which bothers me since we've only been together for like 4 months - this is part of the clinger issue but separate, she can barely stand the thought of a night apart let alone a couple week trip to Alaska, which is another issue) but I'm having concerns as of late. I want to get married and have kids and all that (and her family will be in the area so there will be free babysitting which is a major bonus for impromptu ski days in a few years), but lately I just want to go sarge some HB10 hipster chicks.
So what do I do, TW? I need your advice and personal stories. Do I get more deeply involved? Do I cut and run and go sarge some HB10s? I'm going to be busy but I'll still try to get back to this thread a couple times a day.
Thanks bros.
SO
I'm dating this chick. She's pretty cool and my friends like her for the most part. She's a couple years older than I am, and she's in to the same stuff I am (skiing, bikes, generic mountain stuff), though not to the same level (she's slow). I'm pretty sure she'll love me to death forever, as she's the most severe clinger I've ever encountered. Things are pretty serious and the plan is for her to move in with me in a month and a half.
Now, concerns. She has some health issues (nothing major, though it seems only one girl I've ever really been involved with has been totally free of any medical issues - seriously, wtf is wrong with chicks?). She has lots of debt, mostly student loans but several grand in assorted medical and credit card debt. And she has a tendency to be pretty down on things and almost always sees the negative side. There are some other annoyances that are fairly minor and not fairly relevant, as I'm pretty sure everyone has them.
I'm 27, 28 in a few months, attractive, Got The Graduate Degree (TM), good job, etc. I thought I was pretty solid on the idea of her moving in, which would almost certainly lead to us getting married (and in fact she's already hassling me about it, which bothers me since we've only been together for like 4 months - this is part of the clinger issue but separate, she can barely stand the thought of a night apart let alone a couple week trip to Alaska, which is another issue) but I'm having concerns as of late. I want to get married and have kids and all that (and her family will be in the area so there will be free babysitting which is a major bonus for impromptu ski days in a few years), but lately I just want to go sarge some HB10 hipster chicks.
So what do I do, TW? I need your advice and personal stories. Do I get more deeply involved? Do I cut and run and go sarge some HB10s? I'm going to be busy but I'll still try to get back to this thread a couple times a day.
Thanks bros.