KS let me tell you why I'm kind of white knighting this
I was with a girl years ago (not my wife, some other girl)
early in the relationship when we were first having sex she started like, crying, seriously crying during sex. She would actually have these periods where she would freak out and try to punch me in the middle of sex.
I'm like, what's wrong? What'd I do? Turns out she had been raped her entire childhood by a family friend. Like, constantly. It was never reported. Her parents told her he would never do that and it was swept under the rug.
I went to therapy with her, I went to take back the night with her, and eventually she just decided it was easier to be an alcoholic and drink til she blacked out. I left her cuz of that but I saw how rape can fuck a person up for life. So I don't take it lightly, I take consent seriously, and if you don't like it, fuck off.