My grandpa is dying

i dunno pls

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Goshin

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i've got all 4 grandparents, all in their late 80s or so. He's 90 years old, 4 stints but good health, been a thin dude all his life. Has had some minor strokes but no big deal, saw him in April for my birthday and Easter and he was doing great. Well he has always been great. We have discussions about ww2, his life as a kid and growing up and stuff, being a warden for 30 years all that stuff
always talked about death and dying with him and grandma since at least the last 10 years. He's been in the hospital for 12 days with pneumonia and it swelled his throat so he wont eat now. Hasn't eaten a thing in a week or so. Last friday he was doing pretty alright but not so much now. Basically doctors are saying hey we're gonna send him home or to a nursing home after tomorrow to make him comfortable.

All that for this question:
should I go up to waco and see my cool ass grandpa that bombed munich "munchen for lunchen" 32 times, then married a girl from Munich (lol her mom was pissed) when he is not coherent, weak, and not himself at all, so i can say good bye or whatever that entails...
or should i go to the funeral and do all that there and preserve the memory of said cool ass grandpa from April and the many other times i saw him

i dont know
i've never dealt with death before

:(
 
i will say this

i recently had a friend die of cancer, and she looked completely horrible, deathly skinny, and she was out of it with all the drugs when i went to visit her in the hospital right before she died, and now i really wish i hadn't because that's what i see when i think of her, and not what she used to be.

but yeah, your decision.
 
Watched my grandfather decline over a number of years from Alzheimers in steep drops as I lived in another state and only got to see him a few times a year, former WW2 marine as well. I don't regret the time I spent with him near the end, but I do remember his frail state and lack of pretty much all faculties more than earlier versions of him when he helped teach me to ski, golf etc..
 
i think this is a letter from goshin's grandpa to his mom

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My grandfather was in hospice care the last time I saw him. I drove from Boston to Cape Cod to see him and was glad I did. He had been unconscious for quite a while when I got there, but he woke up during my visit and I got to say goodbye and that I loved him. I actually feel really lucky that I was there near the very end.
 
Go see him. One memory I will never forget is when I went to see my maternal grandfather during his last night - he couldn't really talk, but the way his eyes lit up when I entered the room (I'm his only grandson) made me glad I was able to see him one last time.
 
then i'll see him
me and my brother are the two grandsons he saw grow up. The other 3 grandkids were absent for 20 years or so
it looks like it'll be sunday when i can get up there
 
Yeah if his brain is still working right why not, he's just sick not loopy cancer brain dead sick
 
i figure the lack of coherency means he isnt making any sense
i dont know if he can make sense in his own head and it's coming out all dumb
but i guess i'll know soon
this is dumb :(
 
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