slut said:
Even if a person is nasty, smelly and all wrinkled up, some people can get passed that. I see that to be possible. But the mentality of a 22 year old vs a 56 year old doesnt make sense to me. What could you both talk about and relate too when your ages are so far apart? A 56 year old lived grew up in the 60's i mean come on?
^^^ Okay, now THAT is just plain silly. Come on, man.
When I was 15, I had like 2 friends my own age. All of my other friends -- and I mean GOOD friends, take-a-bullet friends -- were multiples of my own age. Shit, the smartest/wittiest woman I know -- as well as the most caring and insightful and all kinds of other great qualities -- is a 62-year-old wheelchair-bound woman (polio) who helped me edit my short stories when I was struggling in Creative Writing (I was 15, at college, and wrote 12 short stories on finals week . . . ugh). We became great friends. She works as a freelance accountant, and really knows her shit; small businesses run by morons will just bring her stacks of receipts and papers and shit, and she brings order to it. I'm a pretty brilliant guy, but she gives me a run for my money at Scrabble or chess.
I've even become pretty good friends with an 85-year-old man who knew my grandfather growing up. He was in world war fucking two! But it's hilarious -- talk to him about anything other than cars and he sounds like Grandpa Simpson, but talk to him about cars and he sounds like amRam.
I mean, most of my friends are around my age (mid-teens through late twenties). But, shit, I can talk with older people. I can talk with them about Nixon, or even Woodrow Wilson; I can talk with Warren about the 16-cylinder Cadillac that he drove in California in the '40s, or with Arliss about the absurdity of small-town, River-city-esque mentalities.
So, that's not a question for me at ALL.
Literally the only thing that would keep me from marrying a 52-year-old woman -- assuming that I met one who I thought "this is THE ONE" -- is self-doubt. The physical differences have the potential to place an enormous strain on the relationship because when piotrr starts to experience the mid-30's burnout/panic, Akela will be 65 or 70 -- I know that I wouldn't dump my wife, but I think that if I put myself in that kind of position I wouldn't handle it gracefully, and the marriage might suffer as a result.