Vanster, you ok buddy?
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Eight hours of rage and drinking will do that most people
Exercise is good for low mood, and helps with depression, but I found that it only really helped my energy levels, it didn't stop me from feeling depressed after I quit medicine.
Stay positive and if you need help talk to a therapist or get yourself treated for depression. Its not something you gotta make a death sentence.
Stay positive and if you need help talk to a therapist or get yourself treated for depression. Its not something you gotta make a death sentence.
What about your drinking
I don't know. For most men, they get cheated on and left, and they treat it like it's just a bad load of laundry. They pick up, shower, and get on with their lives. There is something wrong with me that I'm unable to do that. After Mary left the first time, Sertraline HCL 100mg, b/d worked for a few years but then it didn't, and I took myself off, with decent effect.
I look at Chris Cornell as a hero that went out on his own terms, but I don't have that kind of guts, I don't think. As far as running, at 55 I don't know if I have a sixth hundred miler in me, but an easy terrain one maybe. At the moment, it's just hour to hour.
Money Ma$e had correctly identified Mary and the person she is, and did warn me. He did the best he could, and I didn't listen. Meh.
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Be honest, why do you think Mary cheated on you again?
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Dude fuck Mary you are way too hung up on one women
You need a change of scenery or something to snap you out of this but as someone who likes you this is getting sad like one women shouldn't cause this type of mind games on a guy especially since this isn't the first time it's happened
You need a change of scenery or something to snap you out of this but as someone who likes you this is getting sad like one women shouldn't cause this type of mind games on a guy especially since this isn't the first time it's happened
Mason drilled and drilled this, multiple phone calls, et. cetera and I just didn't listen to him. Eph was more dismissive and indifferent, but said the same thing.
I suppose the takehome here is the toughlove friend I have in Naptown.
yeah you fucked up
naptown is definitely an alpha, and you are a beta cuck, so listen next time, noob.
My first wife cheated on me. She was supposed to be the one. You know what I mean? I had this overly romanticized view of how things were supposed to be. Men may be tough as nails when it comes to physical work etc but when it comes to losing someone we love? We feel it deep.
Anyway, I found myself having suicidal thoughts. Not that serious. But, I was at home by myself and the thought went through my head - "I could always use the Glock".
That thought rocked me. My brain recoiled in horror. I promised that very day that no one would eve hold that kind of power over my future ever again. That was around 30 years ago.
I went on to be better than ever before. met another woman, had a kid. We ended up getting divorced as well. (another story). But, we all get along. Kids are all healthy and happy. One of them is getting married this Spring. Another is an amazing gay, republican professional doing really well. The other is still enjoying being the youngest.
Some quick tips:
1) I know you are feeling older and not at the top of the game but RUN or walk outside. You don't have to be winning races and going 5000 miles. Just go outside and enjoy the air.
2) Get a new hobby that you are passionate about. Anything to keep your brain occupied. Maybe go back to school for something that you told yourself you would never do.
3) Time heals everything. At least most things
4) Remember that today can look dark but just one little thing like getting a puppy to raise gives you purpose. It's all chemical.
5) Focus on the good memories. Not the bad ones.
6) Try to avoid the drugs if you can. Use behavior instead. At least don't end up using them as a permanent crutch.
7) Don't dwell. Move forward.
8) Compartmentalize emotions. It is possible to function and process the baggage in chunks.
9) Consider a change of location, job, etc.
10) Have a sense of humor - do not underestimate the power of being able to look at yourself and get a laugh.
Anyway, slumps suck. You have a tough, resilient streak. Use it.
Sorry to hear you are going through a rough patch.
GL fellow TribalWarrior.
All of this.
Read a book a while back about elite military contractors that can and do just about anything when it comes to killing other humans. These guys have seen the worst humanity has to offer but the author of the book dedicated a chapter to how relationships affected these men.
Same story told over and over, no matter which department of special operations or contractors, when the man is gone for months or years on end, the woman will seek attention elsewhere. These guys, when they find out, break down like little kids from this and many of them make the worst decision. They have seen some of the worst shit known to man and can move on and do their job with little hesitation but when their heart gets broken over infidelity, they crumble.
What you are feeling is normal. We should not have to feel this way, but relationships are brutal even to the strongest of us. There is a common misconception when it comes to men and emotions and how we are emotionless monsters when compared to women, but this is a load of crap. The idiotic emotional IQ test created to show how awesome women are, proves that men are just as emotional as women - we just don't wear them on our sleeves.
Time.
Think about those dudes doing the dirty work. Many of them justified it by telling themselves that it was all for the relationship back home. Soon, it would be over and they could get back to reality. Then, that little string snaps and bam. No getting back to normalcy. Tenuous moment.
You are a good man, Plaz.