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Plasmatic 03-06-2021 23:19

Vanster, you ok buddy?
 
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Highfive 03-06-2021 23:20

he passed out by now

Dr Dance 03-07-2021 15:42

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Mitchdubai 03-07-2021 16:06

Rusty old **** thread
Rusty old **** poster

Vanster 03-07-2021 16:58

Trying to run every day.
Trying to be a decent supe.

That's all I've got.

Pagy 03-07-2021 17:00

Quote:

Originally Posted by Highfive (Post 19307862)
he passed out by now

Eight hours of rage and drinking will do that most people

Zomnivore 03-07-2021 17:12

Exercise is good for low mood, and helps with depression, but I found that it only really helped my energy levels, it didn't stop me from feeling depressed after I quit medicine.

Stay positive and if you need help talk to a therapist or get yourself treated for depression. Its not something you gotta make a death sentence.

amRam 03-07-2021 17:14

Quote:

Originally Posted by Vanster (Post 19308039)
Trying to run every day.
Trying to be a decent supe.

That's all I've got.

What about your drinking

Vanster 03-07-2021 17:24

Quote:

Originally Posted by Zomnivore (Post 19308050)
Exercise is good for low mood, and helps with depression, but I found that it only really helped my energy levels, it didn't stop me from feeling depressed after I quit medicine.

Stay positive and if you need help talk to a therapist or get yourself treated for depression. Its not something you gotta make a death sentence.

I don't know. For most men, they get cheated on and left, and they treat it like it's just a bad load of laundry. They pick up, shower, and get on with their lives. There is something wrong with me that I'm unable to do that. After Mary left the first time, Sertraline HCL 100mg, b/d worked for a few years but then it didn't, and I took myself off, with decent effect.

I look at Chris Cornell as a hero that went out on his own terms, but I don't have that kind of guts, I don't think. As far as running, at 55 I don't know if I have a sixth hundred miler in me, but an easy terrain one maybe. At the moment, it's just hour to hour.

Money Ma$e had correctly identified Mary and the person she is, and did warn me. He did the best he could, and I didn't listen. Meh.

havax 03-07-2021 17:32

Quote:

Originally Posted by Vanster (Post 19308060)
I don't know. For most men, they get cheated on and left, and they treat it like it's just a bad load of laundry. They pick up, shower, and get on with their lives. There is something wrong with me that I'm unable to do that. After Mary left the first time, Sertraline HCL 100mg, b/d worked for a few years but then it didn't, and I took myself off, with decent effect.

I look at Chris Cornell as a hero that went out on his own terms, but I don't have that kind of guts, I don't think. As far as running, at 55 I don't know if I have a sixth hundred miler in me, but an easy terrain one maybe. At the moment, it's just hour to hour.

Money Ma$e had correctly identified Mary and the person she is, and did warn me. He did the best he could, and I didn't listen. Meh.

Be honest, why do you think Mary cheated on you again?

Vanster 03-07-2021 17:37

The next guy? I really don't know.
What I didn't know is that this is going to be her 8th.

Enjoy this Havax. It's weird to me that a human could take such delight in another one being broken, but okay. enjoy it.

KittyCat 03-07-2021 17:43

Dude **** Mary you are way too hung up on one women

You need a change of scenery or something to snap you out of this but as someone who likes you this is getting sad like one women shouldn't cause this type of mind games on a guy especially since this isn't the first time it's happened

Vanster 03-07-2021 17:47

Quote:

Originally Posted by KittyCat (Post 19308068)
Dude **** Mary you are way too hung up on one women

Mason drilled and drilled this, multiple phone calls, et. cetera and I just didn't listen to him. Eph was more dismissive and indifferent, but said the same thing.

I suppose the takehome here is the toughlove friend I have in Naptown.

havax 03-07-2021 17:48

Quote:

Originally Posted by Vanster (Post 19308071)
Mason drilled and drilled this, multiple phone calls, et. cetera and I just didn't listen to him. Eph was more dismissive and indifferent, but said the same thing.

I suppose the takehome here is the toughlove friend I have in Naptown.

yeah you ****ed up

naptown is definitely an alpha, and you are a beta cuck, so listen next time, noob.

Brasstax 03-07-2021 18:16

Quote:

Originally Posted by Vanster (Post 19308060)
I don't know. For most men, they get cheated on and left, and they treat it like it's just a bad load of laundry. They pick up, shower, and get on with their lives. There is something wrong with me that I'm unable to do that. After Mary left the first time, Sertraline HCL 100mg, b/d worked for a few years but then it didn't, and I took myself off, with decent effect.

I look at Chris Cornell as a hero that went out on his own terms, but I don't have that kind of guts, I don't think. As far as running, at 55 I don't know if I have a sixth hundred miler in me, but an easy terrain one maybe. At the moment, it's just hour to hour.

Money Ma$e had correctly identified Mary and the person she is, and did warn me. He did the best he could, and I didn't listen. Meh.

My first wife cheated on me. She was supposed to be the one. You know what I mean? I had this overly romanticized view of how things were supposed to be. Men may be tough as nails when it comes to physical work etc but when it comes to losing someone we love? We feel it deep.

Anyway, I found myself having suicidal thoughts. Not that serious. But, I was at home by myself and the thought went through my head - "I could always use the Glock".

That thought rocked me. My brain recoiled in horror. I promised that very day that no one would eve hold that kind of power over my future ever again. That was around 30 years ago.

I went on to be better than ever before. met another woman, had a kid. We ended up getting divorced as well. (another story). But, we all get along. Kids are all healthy and happy. One of them is getting married this Spring. Another is an amazing gay, republican professional doing really well. The other is still enjoying being the youngest.

Some quick tips:
1) I know you are feeling older and not at the top of the game but RUN or walk outside. You don't have to be winning races and going 5000 miles. Just go outside and enjoy the air.
2) Get a new hobby that you are passionate about. Anything to keep your brain occupied. Maybe go back to school for something that you told yourself you would never do.
3) Time heals everything. At least most things
4) Remember that today can look dark but just one little thing like getting a puppy to raise gives you purpose. It's all chemical.
5) Focus on the good memories. Not the bad ones.
6) Try to avoid the drugs if you can. Use behavior instead. At least don't end up using them as a permanent crutch.
7) Don't dwell. Move forward.
8) Compartmentalize emotions. It is possible to function and process the baggage in chunks.
9) Consider a change of location, job, etc.
10) Have a sense of humor - do not underestimate the power of being able to look at yourself and get a laugh.

Anyway, slumps suck. You have a tough, resilient streak. Use it.

Sorry to hear you are going through a rough patch.

GL fellow TribalWarrior.

Le Sean 03-07-2021 18:36

Quote:

Originally Posted by KittyCat (Post 19308068)
Dude **** Mary you are way too hung up on one women

You need a change of scenery or something to snap you out of this but as someone who likes you this is getting sad like one women shouldn't cause this type of mind games on a guy especially since this isn't the first time it's happened

All of this.

samUwell 03-07-2021 18:49

Quote:

Originally Posted by Vanster (Post 19308060)
I don't know. For most men, they get cheated on and left, and they treat it like it's just a bad load of laundry. They pick up, shower, and get on with their lives.

Read a book a while back about elite military contractors that can and do just about anything when it comes to killing other humans. These guys have seen the worst humanity has to offer but the author of the book dedicated a chapter to how relationships affected these men.

Same story told over and over, no matter which department of special operations or contractors, when the man is gone for months or years on end, the woman will seek attention elsewhere. These guys, when they find out, break down like little kids from this and many of them make the worst decision. They have seen some of the worst **** known to man and can move on and do their job with little hesitation but when their heart gets broken over infidelity, they crumble.

What you are feeling is normal. We should not have to feel this way, but relationships are brutal even to the strongest of us. There is a common misconception when it comes to men and emotions and how we are emotionless monsters when compared to women, but this is a load of crap. The idiotic emotional IQ test created to show how awesome women are, proves that men are just as emotional as women - we just don't wear them on our sleeves.

Time.

Plasmatic 03-07-2021 19:13

PM me if you need to talk Levan

Brasstax 03-07-2021 19:14

Think about those dudes doing the dirty work. Many of them justified it by telling themselves that it was all for the relationship back home. Soon, it would be over and they could get back to reality. Then, that little string snaps and bam. No getting back to normalcy. Tenuous moment.

Brasstax 03-07-2021 19:17

Quote:

Originally Posted by Plasmatic (Post 19308122)
PM me if you need to talk Levan

You are a good man, Plaz.

Brasstax 03-07-2021 20:03

Last thing....
Self-care.

There are some things you can do immediately that will make you feel good.
1) Get rid of hair.
I know it's weird. But, you know why there is a hair test for drugs, right? **** stays pent up in there forever. If you have long hair, get it cut and grow it out again if you want to. Get rid of facial hair. If it's long, take it down to a stubble first so that you can take care of the skin or get some sun on it before you take it all the way off.

2) Get some moisturizer, oil etc. Clip all your nails. Push back all the cuticles do all the "girly" stuff. Put on a clay mask etc.

Don't underestimate the power of caring for yourself. It will make you feel better. Guaranteed.

Pagy 03-07-2021 20:07

Quote:

Originally Posted by Vanster (Post 19308067)
Enjoy this Havax. It's weird to me that a human could take such delight in another one being broken, but okay. enjoy it.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Vanster (Post 19307823)
I'm so with you on this. When Texas passed laws saying it's okay to carry in bars that serve alcohol, I cheered as loud as the Texans.

Lavan
Youre never going to have peace in this world until you unload the everest sized chip on your shoulder, stop feeling entitled to something the universe owes you, and learn some goddamn humility for having the opportunity to enjoy a peaceful, long happy life.

Ive never seen someone more in need of jordan peterson books. Buy one or something. He has a new one.

cael 03-07-2021 20:38

jordan peterson :rofl:

havax 03-07-2021 21:31

Quote:

Originally Posted by cael (Post 19308148)
jordan peterson :rofl:

if you cannot laugh at your own pathetic self, cael, then you cannot laugh at jordan peterson

amRam 03-07-2021 22:19

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pagy (Post 19308139)
Lavan
Youre never going to have peace in this world until you unload the everest sized chip on your shoulder, stop feeling entitled to something the universe owes you, and learn some goddamn humility for having the opportunity to enjoy a peaceful, long happy life.

Ive never seen someone more in need of jordan peterson books. Buy one or something. He has a new one.

This right here is gold

Vanster 03-07-2021 22:36

Quote:

Originally Posted by Brasstax (Post 19308137)
1) Get rid of hair.
I know it's weird. But, you know why there is a hair test for drugs, right?

Since Lemon isn't around to tell you: Alcohol is the only drug I've ever done. No experiments, no "tried it once," nothing. Everyone is telling me to try edibles as it "takes the edge off," but meh. I've never tried any drugs, save for 2 monsters on race day morning.

As far as my hair, that's a thing the elders usually cut. They cut mine in 2011, for the last round of Mary. It's a Northern Arapaho thing, that in a time of grieving, elders cut your hair, and over months, you can get a visual idea of healing as your hair grows. It's parochial and trite, but not much different than European tricks for getting through mourning. I haven't made the decision to cut it or not, although you might be interested to know I stopped dying it in 2018. I look at older photos of me and it's almost a different man.

https://scontent-den4-1.xx.fbcdn.net...bb&oe=606A3418

lemontw 03-07-2021 22:57

Quote:

Originally Posted by Vanster (Post 19308185)
Since Lemon isn't around to tell you: Alcohol is the only drug I've ever done. No experiments, no "tried it once," nothing. Everyone is telling me to try edibles as it "takes the edge off," but meh. I've never tried any drugs, save for 2 monsters on race day morning.

As far as my hair, that's a thing the elders usually cut. They cut mine in 2011, for the last round of Mary. It's a Northern Arapaho thing, that in a time of grieving, elders cut your hair, and over months, you can get a visual idea of healing as your hair grows. It's parochial and trite, but not much different than European tricks for getting through mourning. I haven't made the decision to cut it or not, although you might be interested to know I stopped dying it in 2018. I look at older photos of me and it's almost a different man.

https://scontent-den4-1.xx.fbcdn.net...bb&oe=606A3418

Do you speak Arapaho?

Plasmatic 03-07-2021 23:08

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w8BfnqWvx1Q

Sent from my SM-G973U using Tapatalk

Vanster 03-07-2021 23:08

Quote:

Originally Posted by lemontw (Post 19308192)
Do you speak Arapaho?

You're the worst personal assistant EVER.

I can understand it colloquially, but can't speak it. I can say basic phrases, tell you to go over there, or ask you your name, but I can't functionally speak it at all. It's a dying language, as it should be. It's pretty to listen to, and maybe they will preserve some of it for that reason. But yeah, cussing you out in any Algonquin language sounds like I'm hitting on you.

havax 03-07-2021 23:09

Quote:

Originally Posted by Vanster (Post 19308185)
Since Lemon isn't around to tell you: Alcohol is the only drug I've ever done. No experiments, no "tried it once," nothing. Everyone is telling me to try edibles as it "takes the edge off," but meh. I've never tried any drugs, save for 2 monsters on race day morning.

As far as my hair, that's a thing the elders usually cut. They cut mine in 2011, for the last round of Mary. It's a Northern Arapaho thing, that in a time of grieving, elders cut your hair, and over months, you can get a visual idea of healing as your hair grows. It's parochial and trite, but not much different than European tricks for getting through mourning. I haven't made the decision to cut it or not, although you might be interested to know I stopped dying it in 2018. I look at older photos of me and it's almost a different man.

https://scontent-den4-1.xx.fbcdn.net...bb&oe=606A3418

where's your finish picture in 2017, bro?

https://instagram.faus1-1.fna.fbcdn....ee&oe=606D8CA7

Plasmatic 03-07-2021 23:09

It was a woman beating joke...

Sent from my SM-G973U using Tapatalk

Vanster 03-07-2021 23:12

Quote:

Originally Posted by havax (Post 19308197)
where's your finish picture in 2017, bro?

https://instagram.faus1-1.fna.fbcdn....ee&oe=606D8CA7

That picture is the start, I'm not sure where the finish ones are. I was finishing in the middle of the night, and they are very dark. I have them on my FB, but I'm sure you can understand why I won't be sending you a fr anytime soon.
You can google C&O 100 2017 and probably find it. I was third.

Edit: I've had friends do Massanuten, but I never did.

amRam 03-07-2021 23:16

Quote:

Originally Posted by Vanster (Post 19308185)
Everyone is telling me to try edibles as it "takes the edge off," but meh.

Sounds like what you think they're telling you, and what they're actually telling you, are different things.

lemontw 03-07-2021 23:30

Quote:

Originally Posted by Vanster (Post 19308196)
You're the worst personal assistant EVER.

I can understand it colloquially, but can't speak it. I can say basic phrases, tell you to go over there, or ask you your name, but I can't functionally speak it at all. It's a dying language, as it should be. It's pretty to listen to, and maybe they will preserve some of it for that reason. But yeah, cussing you out in any Algonquin language sounds like I'm hitting on you.

Why should it be a dying language?

havax 03-07-2021 23:33

Quote:

Originally Posted by Vanster (Post 19308201)
I have them on my FB, but I'm sure you can understand why I won't be sending you a fr anytime soon.

i do understand, because i don't have a facebook account, so it would be difficult.

in any case, congrats on the 20+ hour 3rd. too bad a chick beat you at 16 hours. gg.

Edofnor 03-07-2021 23:49

wtf havax i thot we were fb friends

wtf bro

wtf

Vanster 03-08-2021 00:06

Quote:

Originally Posted by lemontw (Post 19308205)
Why should it be a dying language?

Well, my opinion (and as soon as someone busts out the opinion word, that's a signal that we can all relax) is that English is becoming the language of the world, and with 7+ billion of us, we should allow that to take over. I've heard arguments for German, which is way more logical, the verb always occurring at the end of the sentence, as it should. Romance languages are more fun to listen to (Romanian, Spanish and the rest), but in the germanic languages, English has taken the most license, broken the most rules, and is the most malleable. Because English is the slut of the germanic languages, it's the most spoken, and is the second most spoken language on the planet now-- you already know the first. English is the language of commerce and industry, the language of press reporting, the language of peer-reviewed science. English should be the language of the world, and I'll stand by that.


Quote:

Originally Posted by Havax
in any case, congrats on the 20+ hour 3rd. too bad a chick beat you at 16 hours. gg.

Okay, did you just say something that was kind? The end doesn't taint the beginning, that was just a very kind thing to say. Who are you?

Carol is an elite runner that holds American records for 50K, 50M, 100K, and in Maryland was to be her attempt to get the 100M record as well.

The weather got to her, and she seriously considered abandoning, but Hoka talked to her at the 100K aid station and offered her some incentive to win the race outright, so she did. In my 30's, I might have beaten her, but not at 54.

https://scontent-den4-1.xx.fbcdn.net...1e&oe=606A02AD

https://scontent-den4-1.xx.fbcdn.net...a5&oe=60698B1C

water belly:
https://scontent-den4-1.xx.fbcdn.net...bf&oe=606A8B6B

havax 03-08-2021 00:09

Quote:

Originally Posted by Vanster (Post 19308214)
Well, my opinion (and as soon as someone busts out the opinion word, that's a signal that we can all relax) is that English is becoming the language of the world, and with 7+ billion of us, we should allow that to take over. I've heard arguments for German, which is way more logical, the verb always occurring at the end of the sentence, as it should. Romance languages are more fun to listen to (Romanian, Spanish and the rest), but in the germanic languages, English has taken the most license, broken the most rules, and is the most malleable. Because English is the slut of the germanic languages, it's the most spoken, and is the second most spoken language on the planet now-- you already know the first. English is the language of commerce and industry, the language of press reporting, the language of peer-reviewed science. English should be the language of the world, and I'll stand by that.




Okay, did you just say something that was kind? The end doesn't taint the beginning, that was just a very kind thing to say. Who are you?

Carol is an elite runner that holds American records for 50K, 50M, 100K, and in Maryland was to be her attempt to get the 100M record as well.

The weather got to her, and she seriously considered abandoning, but Hoka talked to her at the 100K aid station and offered her some incentive to win the race outright, so she did. In my 30's, I might have beaten her, but not at 54.

https://scontent-den4-1.xx.fbcdn.net...1e&oe=606A02AD

https://scontent-den4-1.xx.fbcdn.net...a5&oe=60698B1C

water belly:
https://scontent-den4-1.xx.fbcdn.net...bf&oe=606A8B6B

yeah seriously, very bad ass. 51 year old 20 hours vs 42 year old champion at 16 hours is very respectful. gg.

Vanster 03-08-2021 00:14

Quote:

Originally Posted by havax (Post 19308215)
yeah seriously, very bad ass. 51 year old 20 hours vs 42 year old champion at 16 hours is very respectful. gg.

Who ARE you?

While you're taking over for the person that posts as Havax, can you at least back me up on the singing? I'll ask you to come over to the Havax thread, and you can disabuse me.

lemontw 03-08-2021 00:19

We should all learn Chinese.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7aHIGPB0PVQ


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