Tribalwar, I have a shitty relationship with every member of my family

Dude, this isn't hard.

You feel like you can't be yourself because you can't.. if your parents extort you by threatening to remove their support unless you act like THEY want, then by definition you can't act like you want. That's the central issue here.

The surrounding stuff, the lack of respect from siblings ect., just comes from that. I wouldn't have much respect for someone who lives off their parents, either. That leads to low self confidence and THAT leads to social anxiety.

You have a rough situation because of their divorce, but that's not an excuse. Sometimes this means the kids are never taught how to be adults. So you're going to have to learn on your own.

Take the initiative, tell them you won't let them run your life. Cut them off. By that I mean just get off the tit. Stop taking their money and support yourself. It's easier than you think, though you will have to make do with less than you have now. But that's good, too.

Once you do that, they won't have any right to tell you what you can and can't do. Control over your own life will increase your self-confidence, and you'll find that everything gets easier as if by magic.

When I lived with my mom, we fought constantly. But after I moved out, everything became chill. That's just how it is. GL
 
Murrell said:
Out of all the human beings on this earth, I have the most difficulty socializing with them, being honest with them, having fun with them, and sometimes tolerating them. All of this fucking disgusts me.

I do not feel at home at home. Sometimes I feel like I have multiple personalities or a lack thereof. I can be loud and funny and happy with my friends but at home I am reserved and quiet and sometimes condescending. My family really doesn't know me that well.

My parents are divorced and have been for about 5 years. Both parents support me with a place to live, a car, insurance and phone. I pay all my other shit. When I blunder in one of my relationships with them, I am threatened to be cut off and my belongings "thrown in the street."

Recently I lied to my mother about my plans for a weekend. I planned on going to a music festival, she thought I was at a friend's lake house. At the very beginning of the trip I felt that she needed to know what was going on. It took me until a little past halfway through to call her and tell her. I had no intention of hurting her or my relationship with her. I did both. In fucking spades. I simply felt that she would say no and have a negative attitude towards this so it was easier to avoid it. She called me a coward. I agreed.

I feel like absolute fucking shit. Both of my little brothers (my only siblings) no longer respect me. Both of my parents have been skeptical of my entire character since about a year and a half ago. They disagreed virtually whole heartedly with my lifestyle when I was living away from home.

My first semester of college did not go well for me socially. I didn't make too many friends and I was very depressed with myself and my personality. A part of myself blamed my upbringing and how I was raised (I had a really unhappy childhood). I did not like thinking this yet I fucking embraced it. Since then I think I have held in a lot of negative feelings and thoughts towards my parents. I do not want to agree with or even confirm the existence of these feelings but they are there. I just shoveled the blame for my fucking depression, social anxiety, and confusion right onto them.

I don't even know where to start and stop all this shit I am writing. I just want to be myself at home. I want to be open and have conversations with my fucking family. What the fuck am I doing wrong? I feel like I am a much different person than my family members but that doesn't mean we can't get along.

god dammit I needed to write that shit, no cliffs just read it; it's not that long
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sounds like you should fuck your mother. that will make things aaaaaall better
 
just get a third or fourth job, and drop out of school. you'd be a half-educated dumbass, but at least you can pay for your own shit without your parents owning you...
 
I just burst into laughter in the middle of a board meeting looking at this thread, because after reading the title I knew it was going to end precisely this way
 
american family values are shit

i can't believe anyone can be raised to be so distant and aloof from his parents/siblings
 
Durak said:
american family values are shit

i can't believe anyone can be raised to be so distant and aloof from his parents/siblings
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Believe it.

#1 - Divorce
#2 - Daycare

Looking at these, I have NO IDEA how kids could possibly grow up without their parents knowing them.
 
in all seriousness - move the fuck out

almost nobody gets along with their family untill they move out

you're just getting feelings of being insecure because you're about to be thrown into the world and you have been babied your entire life

man the fuck up, i moved out at 19 and my parents dont pay for shit and we get along great now
 
yeah living in a place you hate where you can continue to be an adult-child(probably also a virgin) forever

sounds like a plan to me!
 
Sorry, FS.
Unless you've changed a lot, you are an emo kid.
I only associate with emo kids long enough to ridicule them.
 
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