Sorry there's too many kids here for me to micromanage them like that.
also, micromanaging your kids will get you kids who grow up dependent on you. Treat them like adults when they reach puberty, let them make decisions and let them learn about responsibility and consequences, they will make some mistakes but will be much better for it when they are adults.
We never spied on our kids (like the commercials want). Never told them not to drink, smoke, date etc. Talked openly and honestly about pro's and cons of those type decisions. Never pushed College, Military, or anything. Explained what we knew of each, told them choice is theirs.
None of our Kids got pregnant, none arrested, none smoke. all 4 chose college, 3 of which have graduated and working in their fields. The other 2 years in. Never had any real trouble with any of them (couple scares with alcohol, but they survived and learned).
All I do for them now is keep them in shitty cars which I don't mind. pretty sure 2 will be financing new cars this year. Oh, and they all work and never ask for money.
Yeah, we weren't the perfect affectionate parents and that we do regret, but is what is, but all in all we done pretty good I think. For the negative parents, I feel bad for you, I have liked the entire ride from birth to present day, and it just keeps getting better.
YMMV
Excellent points. What sex is the kid? If a girl will you...
1. Let her take horse riding lessons and go to horse camp (which leads to getting a horse) and wanting a ranch (sky is the limit).
2. Put her in soccer which is what most parents do. Piano lessons would be the other cheap idea.
For boy or girl, will you
1. Put them in private school costing thousands of dollars? Then ignore them when they turn 18 and need the help the most? (kid turns into a pot head and flunks out of school getting a McJob)
2. Let them duke it out in public school, telling them to get straight A's in HS and a scholarship to the state public university for 5k a year versus 25k a year (private)? Some kids rack up 200k in student loans with no job to show for it. State public university is the way to go, but the kid needs the straight A's in HS. When the kid is in HS and college is when they need your help the most with tutors to get through the weed out classes.
And actually, the thing you want to identify, is whether your kid has a photographic memory.
I couldn't disagree more. Good Luck NGFM, I think you will need it.