MolimOrion
Veteran XV
These 3 religious sects seem to stick out the most to me when pondering the approaches to resolving the want of fucking other women.
Muslims -- These folks cover up their women, so the men will not see them, and this in theory helps the men not want to fuck them, since they can't see them.
Christians -- These folks use several Biblical passages to instill a fear of God, to keep men from fucking other women.
Mormons -- These folks had a much different approach. Allow the men to take on multiple wives.
I don't believe any of the 3 have really resolved the issue, but some folks in all 3 have been able to lead good, happy lives, or at a minimum, they are content with their approach.
I mostly have experience with the Christians, or from an in general perspective, Americans. We have at least a 50% divorce rate in this country, so the approach, or the premise, is not sound imo.
I would have to imagine this issue has been around since before we came down from the trees. The religions have really failed, overall, in their approach to combat the male Homo sapien's natural want to have sexual relations with other women.
But the Mormons, and I guess in some places where Islam is practiced, they kind of accepted the male's natural desire as non-evil, whereas the Christians perceived it as man being a natural sinner, i.e., something evil.
Does anyone try to approach this issue with any integrity anymore ?
From the research I've done, folks here in America at least deal with this issue in several ways.
Some guys just use porn. But the Christians believe this is infidelity, unless the porn is of your significant other. Same with masturbation without porn, and just thoughts. If you're thinking of someone else, that is still infidelity. Some guys hide this from their significant other, some folks admit it to their wives, and some of those wives like it, and some don't.
Some guys talk their significant others into 3-somes.
Some guys just cheat on their wives, and keep it hidden.
Some guys push the desire deep down inside them, act like it isn't there, and live a lie.
But with all of them, the desire is still there. And this is an old problem, that hasn't really had any type of lasting solution.
I certainly don't believe that the desire is inherently evil, as the Christians believe. And I don't believe the answer is to cover up all of the women as the Muslims do, but I can see their point, as being bombarded with sexual images all day, of half-clothed women, doesn't help stem the desire, at all. Polygamy seems like an honest approach, but the Mormons haven't been able to pull it off in the large majority.
I guess my main question is, in all of history, what is the best approach you've seen to combat this issue, either religious or not, that has integrity ? And if it hasn't been tried yet, do you see a better solution ?
The having kids solution coupled with a Christian religion seems effective, but with no integrity. The man can somewhat easily fend off any desires by the expected ramification of losing his children. But the bottom line is he will still feel it, and is just not acting on it because of the ramifications. So if you take the kids out of the picture, and just a man and wife, one option would be to certainly just get a divorce, and go find another woman. But eventually, he will simply want another one, and the solution is to move on again.
I am somewhat amazed, with all of the great ones before our current generation, no true solution, with integrity, has been found. And I'm not content with the answer being "Men will always have this desire, it is evil, and you are never to act on this."
Muslims -- These folks cover up their women, so the men will not see them, and this in theory helps the men not want to fuck them, since they can't see them.
Christians -- These folks use several Biblical passages to instill a fear of God, to keep men from fucking other women.
Mormons -- These folks had a much different approach. Allow the men to take on multiple wives.
I don't believe any of the 3 have really resolved the issue, but some folks in all 3 have been able to lead good, happy lives, or at a minimum, they are content with their approach.
I mostly have experience with the Christians, or from an in general perspective, Americans. We have at least a 50% divorce rate in this country, so the approach, or the premise, is not sound imo.
I would have to imagine this issue has been around since before we came down from the trees. The religions have really failed, overall, in their approach to combat the male Homo sapien's natural want to have sexual relations with other women.
But the Mormons, and I guess in some places where Islam is practiced, they kind of accepted the male's natural desire as non-evil, whereas the Christians perceived it as man being a natural sinner, i.e., something evil.
Does anyone try to approach this issue with any integrity anymore ?
From the research I've done, folks here in America at least deal with this issue in several ways.
Some guys just use porn. But the Christians believe this is infidelity, unless the porn is of your significant other. Same with masturbation without porn, and just thoughts. If you're thinking of someone else, that is still infidelity. Some guys hide this from their significant other, some folks admit it to their wives, and some of those wives like it, and some don't.
Some guys talk their significant others into 3-somes.
Some guys just cheat on their wives, and keep it hidden.
Some guys push the desire deep down inside them, act like it isn't there, and live a lie.
But with all of them, the desire is still there. And this is an old problem, that hasn't really had any type of lasting solution.
I certainly don't believe that the desire is inherently evil, as the Christians believe. And I don't believe the answer is to cover up all of the women as the Muslims do, but I can see their point, as being bombarded with sexual images all day, of half-clothed women, doesn't help stem the desire, at all. Polygamy seems like an honest approach, but the Mormons haven't been able to pull it off in the large majority.
I guess my main question is, in all of history, what is the best approach you've seen to combat this issue, either religious or not, that has integrity ? And if it hasn't been tried yet, do you see a better solution ?
The having kids solution coupled with a Christian religion seems effective, but with no integrity. The man can somewhat easily fend off any desires by the expected ramification of losing his children. But the bottom line is he will still feel it, and is just not acting on it because of the ramifications. So if you take the kids out of the picture, and just a man and wife, one option would be to certainly just get a divorce, and go find another woman. But eventually, he will simply want another one, and the solution is to move on again.
I am somewhat amazed, with all of the great ones before our current generation, no true solution, with integrity, has been found. And I'm not content with the answer being "Men will always have this desire, it is evil, and you are never to act on this."
